Has out-of-control sexual behavior (otherwise referred to as porn addiction or sex addiction) thrown your relationship into chaos? If you’ve discovered that your partner has been engaging in secret online or in-person sexual experiences, or if you’re concerned about your own sexual behaviors but haven’t told your partner about them yet, we’re here to help.
Many clients come to us feeling lost and overwhelmed about what to do next. They’ve gotten sucked down the rabbit hole of researching “sex addiction” and are desperate to find an approach that aligns with their values and beliefs about sexuality and monogamy. If this sounds like you, we’re glad you’re here. You’ve found a team who can help.
How We Help
At The Center for Couples & Sex Therapy, we’re trained in working with clients experiencing Out-of-Control Sexual Behavior (OCSB).
We do not approach OCSB through a porn or sex addiction lens, and we do not prescribe twelve-step programs as part of the recovery process. Healthy sexuality is a core part of your humanity, and we do not find that abstaining from sexual thoughts and experiences is a treatment route that leads to healing and wholeness for our clients. We will create contracts to clarify the sexual boundaries in your relationship, but we won’t insist on the complete sexual abstinence model that many “Certified Sex Addiction Therapists” prescribe.
We know there’s a reason your sexual behaviors have become secretive, compulsive, and out-of-control. We know that the disclosure of these behaviors has wreaked havoc on your relationship. Our therapists are here to help stabilize your relationship, discover the root cause of the OCSBs, and walk you through the process of sexual healing together. This approach combines our standard methods for working through infidelity recovery (or discernment counseling) with our specialized understanding of treating Out-of-Control Sexual Behavior through a sex-positive, connection-focused lens. If you have any questions about our approach, please schedule a consultation here.
My partner has a porn addiction that is ruining our relationship. I don’t trust them, and I can’t stay in this relationship if we don’t figure out how to fix this problem.
We both understand why they were acting out sexually. We are healing from this betrayal, and are now on the same page about what the sexual boundaries are in our relationship.
I told my partner that I’ve been paying for sex with sex workers for several years. I don’t think I’ll ever forgive myself for doing this. I have no idea how to salvage my relationship.
I have committed to individual therapy, and my partner is joining me for couples therapy. I have taken ownership of my actions and am committed to the healing process that lies ahead. My partner is still hurting, but I feel we are working through this together.
We’ve been in treatment with a “Sex Addiction Therapist” for over a year, but it isn’t working. We’re feeling hopeless that we can recover from this experience.
The Out-of-Control Sexual Behavior model was a much better fit for our relationship and beliefs about sexual health. We finally feel we have a realistic plan to recover from the compulsive sexual behaviors and create the thriving erotic relationship that we were both missing.
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