I want you to have the fulfilling relationships you desire. Whether those be deeply intimate and vulnerable, playful and erotic, or some combination of both.
Working with me, you will untangle the knot of connections between your past experiences and your present struggles. I will help you understand what happens in your brain and body when you feel stress that closes you off from intimacy. Together we will identify and dismantle relational power inequities that get in the way of the democracy that deep love and lasting eroticism require.
When effective, therapy is hard and emotional work. I will bring fierce compassion and plenty of humor to support you through the often difficult journey of self and relationship exploration.
Jessica specializes in…
- Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
- Master of Arts Marriage, Couple, & Family Therapy; Lewis & Clark College
- Bachelor of Arts Psychology, Portland State University
- Advanced Trainings
- EMDR (Levels 1 & 2)
- Domestic Violence Advocacy Training
For as long as I can remember I have been obsessed with relationships, and most of that time I have also been obsessed with sex. As I have transitioned from the wild and searching sexual energy of my youth into stable committed partnership and parenthood, my relationship with sex has changed in so many ways. I have learned so much about how attachment, stress, and chronic health issues impact my sexuality and desire, at times making them hard to access at all. My partner and I are on the journey of cultivating space for desire and eroticism to return to our relationship together and our lives individually. I look forward to sharing the wisdom we have gained and learning from you as well. Therapy is life. Life is Therapy.
Central to my work as a therapist is the role power dynamics play in our experience of intimacy and eroticism. Growing up gendered as female, queer, and very interested in sex I was unavoidably aware of the impact of power inequity and gender bias on my sense of self and my relationships. In the words of Terry Real, “love requires democracy. We cannot love from the one up or one down position.” I will meet you wherever you are in your awareness of the power dynamics that impact your relationships. Together we will courageously identify and dismantle them.
Being neurodivergent (or “neurospicy” as I prefer) I often joke that relational therapy is my “special interest”. I love this work so darn much. The forces of attachment and desire have the power to fuel incredible transformation. You can make change. You can heal. You can have the relationship you are longing for. I can help you get there