Has a physical illness changed the way you feel in your sexual body? Chronic illnesses, pain conditions, and pharmaceutical side effects can all interrupt our natural sexual responses. There’s nothing more frustrating than being unable to sustain a pleasurable experience because your body is no longer working like it used to.
Maybe your partner is understanding, but it doesn’t change the fact that you’re now dealing with a relationship problem in addition to coping with your chronic health condition. How do we solve sexual problems when the culprit is a body that we have no control over? How do we stay sexually connected to our partners when our body is a source of pain, grief, and frustration? You’re not alone, and we’re here to help.
How We Help
We understand that your sexual and relationship struggle goes beyond the bedroom. To fully understand your situation, we have to start in your doctor’s office.
We have several therapists who specialize in medical sex therapy, which is the science of coordinating care between the medical treatment you’re receiving for your chronic illness and the emotional, psychological, and sexual support you’ll receive in the therapy room.
We will work with your body, accepting it as it is now, to discover how you and your partner can continue sharing pleasure despite the physical challenges you’re facing. We’ll help you grieve what you’ve lost, and together will find a path forward that is full of pleasure, connection, and hope for the future.
If you have specific questions about our experience working with your specific condition or disability, please reach out for a consultation.
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I hate my body. I can’t imagine being sexual again. My partner is upset and disappointed, but I don’t feel there is anything I can do to change this.
We’ve found a way to process this experience together. We feel like an intimate team, and although there are still challenges, I feel much more comfortable sharing pleasure with my partner again.
My medication has totally killed my sex drive OR created a sexual side effect (like inability to orgasm or erectile dysfunction) that has ruined our sex life. We feel like there’s nothing we can do to fix this.
We’ve discovered new ways of sharing affectionate and erotic pleasure that we never knew existed. Our sexual relationship is different than it was before, but we’re both satisfied and excited about our future as a sexual couple.
Our relationship was a mess before this condition ruined our sex life. Now things feel hopeless. We fight, we don’t have sex, we just can’t figure out how to make each other happy. If we weren’t dealing with this illness, we’d probably call it quits.
We’ve been able to process the issues we had pre-illness and the challenges that piled on after the diagnosis. We feel like we’re finally teammates again. We have a long way to go, but we’re laughing, sharing pleasure, and supporting each other in ways we haven’t done in years.
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