Relationship Therapy

Mismatched Desire

Are you and your partner on different pages when it comes to how much sex you need in this relationship? We call this desire discrepancy or mismatched desire, and it's the most common reason couples come to sex therapy. We understand this dilemma, and our specialized couples and sex therapists know how to help.

We Understand

Are you and your partner on different pages when it comes to how much sex you need in this relationship? You want sex weekly, your partner wants it monthly. You feel very little desire for sex, your partner desires sex all the time. We call this desire discrepancy or mismatched desire, and it’s the most common reason couples come to sex therapy.

It’s Complicated

Whether you’re fighting about sex all the time, or avoiding any conversations about sex to prevent an argument, we know that you’re both hurting. This problem can be tricky to solve without one person feeling like their needs aren’t being respected; you can’t have a healthy relationship if you feel sexually rejected or pressured into having sex that you don’t want to have. We understand this dilemma, and we know how to help.

How We Help

At The Center for Couples & Sex Therapy, we specialize in helping couples navigate the common and complicated dynamic of mismatched sexual desire.

We respect you both and will work hard to understand each of your positions, needs, and concerns. We will not take sides, and we will not make either of you feel guilty for the amount of sex you want (or don’t want) in your relationship. We’ll walk you through a thorough assessment designed to explore all aspects of your relationship. We’ll talk about everything from communication, to family upbringing, to your individual physical health concerns.

There’s a lot of information to synthesize when working to overcome desire discrepancy! Your specialized sex therapist will guide you through the process with compassion, professionalism, and efficiency. We know exactly how to help you overcome this complicated struggle.

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Before Therapy

After Therapy

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I feel like I’m constantly being rejected by my partner when I ask for sex — I don’t know how much longer I can handle being shut down.

I’m able to talk about my sexual needs openly. I believe that my partner cares about what I need, and I feel good about our sexual relationship.

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I feel totally overwhelmed by my partner’s need for sex. I think there must be something wrong with me — I would honestly be fine if I never had sex again.

I now understand my sexual desire and know that there is nothing wrong with me. My partner works hard to meet my needs, and I feel good about the way we’re exploring sex together.

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Our marriage isn’t going to last if we can’t figure out our sexual relationship. We’re both tired of fighting about sex, but there doesn’t seem to be a solution to this problem.

We no longer fight about sex. We respect our sexual differences and have a clear roadmap for how to navigate our different sexual needs. We’re both feeling sexually and emotionally satisfied in this marriage.

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