Is your partner struggling with a sexual problem that’s impacting your sexual relationship? You want to talk to them about your sexual needs, but you know the problem they’re struggling with is legitimate (and you don’t want to make them feel any worse). Maybe they have erectile dysfunction, performance anxiety, sexual pain, low desire, or are struggling due to past sexual trauma.
You have no idea how to help them, and your own unmet sexual needs are starting to feel overwhelming. You’re caught in a bind that is negatively impacting your relationship. You want to support your partner, and you want your sexual needs to be met. This is not unreasonable, but it is complicated! Getting outside support from a qualified relationship and sex therapist is absolutely the right thing to do.
How We Help
Our couples and sex therapists understand the sensitive nature of this dynamic. We believe that both of your needs are valid and important.
Our work together will emphasize finding balance between overcoming the sexual struggle, ensuring you’re both articulating your unmet sexual needs, and attending to the broader context of your relationship that might be negatively impacting your sexual connection (e.g. poor communication, lack of emotional connection).
Your therapist will proactively guide this process so that you no longer feel responsible for initiating these conversations. Through a combination of individual and couples therapy sessions, you will solidify the foundation of your relationship, overcome the individual sexual struggles that are holding you back, and develop more ease and confidence in the bedroom.
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We haven’t had sex in years because of my partner’s sexual struggle. I’m feeling frustrated, and my partner feels ashamed — we are totally stuck.
We’re able to talk about sex openly and we have created a sexual relationship that feels exciting and anxiety-free for both of us.
I don’t feel like I can talk to my partner about the sexual problems I’m having. I know that they are really dissatisfied, and that makes me feel even worse about myself.
I finally feel that I’ve overcome my sexual problem. I feel confident telling my partner about my sexual needs and believe that I can meet their needs in return.
Our sexual relationship revolves around my partner’s sexual problem. I feel like I can’t get what I need because I’m trying to make sure my partner is doing okay.
Sex is now about pleasure and connection. If problems occur, we know how to talk about them openly and productively. I feel that my sexual needs are finally being met.
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