Has your partner betrayed your trust? Boundary violations can take many forms, such as emotional affairs or sexual infidelity, and can happen either online or in-person. It feels the same regardless of how it occurred: devastating, infuriating, terrifying, and hopeless. You’re both hurting, and neither of you know what to do. You might feel torn between burning the whole relationship to the ground or doubling down to make it work.
You don’t want to walk away from your relationship, but you’re not willing to stay in something broken with a partner you no longer trust. We know one thing for sure: now is not the time to make any big decisions. Your world has been turned upside down. You need support from a professional who can help you and your partner slow down, stop the bleeding, and decide where to go next.
How We Help
Our couples therapists are well-equipped to help you navigate this tumultuous time in your relationship.
We will create a safe container for you to feel big emotions — from flashes of rage, to waves of devastating sadness — while maintaining structure and guiding you towards healing, reconnection, or amicable separation. We will not judge or villainize either of you. We will not impose our personal biases onto you. We will create a neutral space to help you deescalate the current crisis and process the trauma that is unfolding.
As your situation calms, we will explore your relationship history, identify what made your relationship vulnerable to this betrayal, and decide how you’d like to move forward. Whether you choose to part ways or commit to rebuilding trust and connection, we will guide you through the process with patience, understanding, and professionalism.
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I just learned about my partner’s infidelity and am totally overwhelmed. I don’t know what to do next or if I even want to stay in this relationship.
I feel calm and clear about what’s happened in our relationship. My heart is still broken, but I feel hopeful that we’re going to heal from this experience.
I feel awful that I’ve betrayed my partner’s trust. I do have concerns about our relationship, but I feel like I have no ground to stand on now that I’ve done this. I really want to make this right.
I’ve taken full responsibility for my actions and have had the opportunity to make amends. Now we’re focusing on our relationship. This is the first time I’ve been able to talk about what I need, and I feel more confident in my ability to meet my partner’s needs too.
We are in complete shambles. Our relationship was already struggling, but this has pushed us over the edge. We can’t look at each other without triggering a huge fight. We’re exhausted.
We have developed understanding and compassion for each other. Although we did decide to end our relationship, we were able to do it with love and respect for each other. We feel we were able to heal and now have complete closure.
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